• 24/03/2022
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Marriage is not something to wear and will be fine, said the couple's therapist<

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"Marriage is a product of love, love has the right to offer that status to two people who love and want to take advantage of it," the psychologist said, adding that it was not an act of marriage but a long-term commitment to love.

According to the couple's therapist, we have moved into caring for relationships. "We've never been so interested in a partnership, we care about it, we think, we evaluate our parents' relationships, but theory is one thing, but it's still early to change statistics."

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According to the experience of an expert, it is often a problem that we create internal images of our partner. "They react to each other through their own images of the other. And I wonder how the paintings came about. How it happened that a beautiful prince and princess become creatures, for example. It's hard to live with them, "said the psychologist, adding that more than therapeutic methods, they try to connect with the couples who come to him, their emotions and perceptions, and their relationship.

"We are not looking for the culprit, but for understanding ourselves and our partner. I try to connect to them rationally and emotionally, not to rush and make good contact so that they feel safe, "said Rataj, noting that a third of the couples who come to him deal with sexuality, love and intimacy. "Every couple has a chance to be saved in a crisis, but that doesn't mean they can be saved. The therapist can help along the way, but what if the two don't want to, can't, they're too tired, exhausted, it's not in their power? ”

Marriage is nothing to wear and will be fine, said the couple's therapist

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Valentine's Week is the 14th year of the National Marriage Week. Moderator Dominik Vršanský asked the couple's therapist Pavel Rataj about his marriage.

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Women today want to be exemplary mothers, and men chase to support the family and still function as dads. They have no strength left in the relationship that underlies a happy family, and half of the marriages are divorced, Rataj says.

According to Pavel Rataj, the concept of marriage, as understood by previous generations, has emptied. "The people who come into life today come from generations of parents who have divorced a lot. They have anxiety about long-term relationships, the meaning of a formal bond has disappeared, marriage has lost its attractiveness in the last forty years. But the crisis seems to have stopped and is gradually beginning to bear fruit, with divorce rates declining slightly in recent years, ”says the psychologist.

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According to him, the biggest problem is that women devote all their energy to being the best mothers. The men are trying to secure the family. Both, but each separately, take care of the family. However, they do not share their efforts.

"We have a lot of knowledge about relationships, but so far we only pass on about ten percent of them," says the psychologist. "We have the potential to reduce the divorce rate by twenty percent in a few generations. But it's not that easy. So far, we're wondering how to do it. We know that counseling, as it was done fifty years ago, works more for orientation, not for change, healing or growth. This requires internal motivation and a longer-term process, "he points out.

"But working for a family is not the same as working for a relationship," says Rataj, adding that experts know their recurring partnership problems and know the causes, but no longer know how to motivate couples to take active care of their relationships.