• 29/07/2022
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Trans woman Andrea (23): “Trans people have more rights in the Czech Republic than gays and lesbians.I am grateful for what conditions we have in our country ”<

When did it come to be aware that you were born in another body?

I guess I wouldn't say I was born in another body because I have always been happy with my character.I always had a girly figure, but the only thing that interfered with me were other sexual organs and sexual features.Because of this I had problems since I was childhood because I did not want to wear swimsuits and bothered me to have my nipples revealed, so I was wandering into a towel when we were on the beach.Since the kindergarten, I have had a problem to go to the men's toilets, so I only went to the cabins and I took the phobia to adulthood, when I do not go to public toilets and when I go somewhere, I prefer not to drink.

Since childhood, did you just feel like a boy?

Exactly.I didn't know what's going on with me.I always behaved like a girl.As a kid I teared flowers while the other boys played football.I knit the wreaths that they did not want to.Moreover.

However, the first time I really realized I would go to transition, it was in December in 2018.My mother has psychological problems and at that time it just started and I had a terrible onslaught at work.I did the 16th and I got to the physical bottom.I literally ceased to entertain my life and I realized I couldn't work like that anymore.Then I started to paint and helped me.This period took about three months during which I decided to write a sexologist.I finally decided and wrote to Dr. Fifková, who helped me very much.

Is it known in connection with this issue if I am not mistaken?

You're right.If I could recommend someone, it is just her.I am very happy with her and I like it always tells me all the information and does not lubricate me honey around my mouth.Before her visit, I wrote my "CV" where I described my story and then sent me to internal, endocrinological and psychological examination.I have to say that every doctor was great and everyone met me.Although I was very afraid of internal examination that I would find some hidden disease that could prevent transition, eventually it all turned out well, so I started taking hormones.First I tried half the dose to see if I could do it and then went to the full.I currently take hormones and blockers of male hormones and so far everything is done without complications, for which I am glad.I know about cases where this was not the case for various reasons and transitions had to be terminated for this.

But can we say that there is a pretty fresh thing for you?

Yes.It is currently thirteen months.I must say that the pandemie of Koronavir also helped me a little.For me it was great to wear the robes, because at the beginning before my face changed a little to make it more acceptable for society, I was glad to be "covered" with a veil.I also wore neutral clothes for a long time and have been wearing women's clothes for the last four months.

At what stage of transition are you currently located?

I can't describe it because I have no idea at all.I am simply in the preoperative phase, but because of the fact that transition is terribly individual, has a different course for each.But I think I'm one of the better cases because it is still done without complications.This year I have a commission and then the main operation of the genital organs that is mandatory for the official gender change.

What is changing when you start taking hormones and what specifically you could observe?

I was calm for the first three months and it worked on me more like a placebo.I smiled a lot, I liked people and I came like drugs.Then I found a friend with whom I am no longer and maybe he could have influenced because I started to have anxiety and I was not so happy with life.Every five minutes my mood alternated, so I was happy to welcome them all at first and then I sent them somewhere.But I still think I managed it well.I just experienced a minor confusion internally.The most important thing that has changed with me was an attitude to life.I used to be terribly afraid of death, which is a topic that I am currently dealing with because I will undergo that big operation.I have actually learned to accept death for some time, which was strange, but since I have come to terms with it, everything is absolutely cool.

How do other people experience your transition?It is also a huge change for them…

Although I do not understand, accepting them was much easier for them than for me.Maybe I still go to the mirror to this morning and make sure it is me and if it wasn't just a dream.But I have a great family and they're fine with it.The only problem I had with my uncle that told me he wanted to vomit me.It was unpleasant but it was the only hitch.Otherwise I had such great support that I might not even deserve it.I am grateful for what people around me I have.

Didn't they have the problem with it immediately to address you as a girl?

Not at all.I had a grandfather who died three days after the beginning of my transition.Already a week before the start of hormonal treatment he came up with the fact that he wanted to call me Andrejko and began to address me like this.The name chose with my mom.I myself did not want to choose it and in principle I left it on my mom and grandparents who were very close to me.In the beginning I even said much more than them.(laughter)

And what were the reactions of people who are not known, but do you know each other?I mean, for example, neighbors and people from the neighborhood… they had to perceive that something vigorous changed.

As for the reactions in the negative sense of the word, nothing was like that.On the contrary, it happens to me that these people write to me with support and I even had an incident where someone nearby tried to have something with me but I fired it.Surprisingly, I must say that the guys react much better than women and even more surprising is that heterosexual men react much better than gays.When someone had any comments, they were mostly gays, but I must add that it was never any derogatory insults.

Of course there is always someone who does not tolerate you, but often it is rather a problem of those people, not mine.It is often the problem of politicians who sometimes release from your mouth really heresies.They should take into account the younger generation, because such things are really happening and certainly not on the whim, as some of them say…

In this you are probably really lucky, but sometimes on the Internet you can see a wave of huge displeasure on the topic of transitions… Why do you think that is the case?

For example, I am tolerant of all people and I want them to be to me too.It some trans people can't do that.They relate to each other and unnecessarily attacked others.I may not have one organization that fights for the rights of trans people but only fights for the rights of some trans people.People who want to integrate into everyday life do not publicly present themselves.And some views that sound from the mouth of the organization should present themselves as their opinions, not the opinions of all trans people.Everyone is completely different and each has a different story.I haven't met two people yet who would have it exactly the same.

I have also encountered a group of people fighting for Trans people do not have to go through sterilization if they do not want, but the point is that if you undergo surgery, you will mitigate the risks that could happen because you take hormones.From a health point of view, it is a good operation of the genital organs to pass.When someone in the Czech Republic is undergoing transition, the operation simply counts, but there are cases where someone has changed their minds and demanded some rights after half a year.For me personally, the operation is good and we can be glad for paying it to the insurance company.Even doctors told me it was good to go through.Due to hormones in the body one or the other sex simply has nothing to do.

But someone may not agree that sterilization should be mandatory and some people fight for having the right to choose…

That's perfectly fine but I'm just talking about.I don't want some organization to fight for "all trans people" when I just don't share her thoughts.This is me and I speak for myself.If a person speaks for himself and presents his opinion, it's okay.I wouldn't allow myself to say that eighty percent of people say this and another twenty that.It's a private and personal thing of each of us.

However, how would you evaluate the Czechia for what we have the conditions for Trans people in our country?

I would evaluate it very positively for myself.I really had no problems with addressing, with the name of the name, because I am officially Andrea, and actually with nothing.I think it's completely cool.Even the "MKO" and "FKO" case in the citizen does not cause me a problem (the condition of gender change is the aforementioned operation, only then the "new" identity card will be issued, where the gender change is reflected, which is a transition of transitions sensitive topic for some trans people, note.red.).I'm fine with it because I don't show a citizen anywhere, and if I always say in advance that I am going through a gender change.It's okay for the authorities to know that I go through it.I am not ashamed of it, otherwise I would not go into it.

Are more important things to which politicians should devote to.The more it shows to trans people, the more worries and problems arise and the more hate grows to us.We are one of the few states where Trans people have so much support and I greatly appreciate it.Maybe it's bold to say something like this and I speak really purely for myself, but I say it is sad that Trans people today have even more rights than gays and lesbians.

What do you mean?

The point is that when I go through a gender change, I can adopt a child and marry with my partner because I will be recognized as a woman.The government should also focus on gays and lesbians who have a problem with this.

If I'm not mistaken, you are attracted to men… As for the establishment of relationships, are you ready to tell the potential counterpart immediately how things are?

Yes, úplně hned.Before we write.Everywhere on social networks I have stated that I am a trans woman and I say it right away.I think it's okay because those who don't say it live life in a lie.I have lived in a lie for a long time and I don't want to continue that.I am identified with myself and the idea that I have a partner who will come to our home to visit us, where there will be photos of a little boy and ask who it is and I will invent some scenarios is misleading.I go with the skin to the market and I say it really to everyone.When I see that someone is stupid at me, which really happens at least, I am able to go to that person and tell him I am a trans.I am quite eloquent and communicative.

The truth is that the only problem so far I was for myself because I sometimes looked at the opinions on the Internet that spoke about how bad it was and I thought people would pierce me, but it wasn't at all.It's just about setting in the head.I experienced a minor problem just at work because when I started taking medication, I lost my muscle mass and gained 17 pounds.I had no strength and I was tired.I was hurting my breasts and it was worse with work, so I stopped and thought that during the period when I was going through the gender change I want to keep my mentally and physically cool.I tried to look for work again in August and I had no problem.They would employ me everywhere I sent a CV.