• 15/05/2022
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A big mistake of many parents: it is not good to make children's life. They need something quite different from us<

Researchers at the University of New Zealand in Otago offer parents at least a basic overview of children's problems, which may lead to the development of mental problems in the future, which persist or even worsen in adulthood. On the contrary, there are also common childhood manifestations, which parents do not have to worry about according to the research's intentions, they will most likely go away on their own with time and increasing age.

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Long-term research

The results of a study published, among others, in the journal Psychological Medicine, speak of psychological problems that children suffer until adulthood. These were processed on the basis of long-term follow-up of a total of 1,265 children, born over a period of four months in 1977. Today, these are men and women aged 44 years. What did they struggle with as children and how did it affect their future lives?

What to pay attention to?

The first observations were made in a selected group at the age of seven to nine. … “This is a job that allows you to find out what specific behavior in childhood has the greatest impact on adult life,” explained Nathan Monk, one of the research team. So when should we notice? What behavior of our children should worry us, and which, according to scientists, is usually only temporary?

Sad loners have a hard time

Nathan Monk and his co-workers have found that children, who tend to cry as children, are solitary and have a sad rather than happy mood, often carrying these qualities into adulthood. Conversely, shyness in the presence of adults or other children, fears of authority, and unnecessarily high levels of subordination can easily disappear due to upbringing and independence. "We have found that anxiety behavior in childhood, related to social isolation and sadness, seems to carry an increased risk of anxiety disorder in later life, while concerns related to specific situations do not cause such problems in adulthood," he added.

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It is necessary to pay attention to the boys as well

Among other things, experts point out a certain neglect of the mental problems of young or adolescent boys. While the girls who took part in the follow-up were found to have anxiety disorder between the ages of 14 and 21 in almost half of them, it was 27 percent in young men of the same age. But while the number of women decreases slightly with age, the opposite is true for men.

What does the research mean?

According to a child psychiatrist at the university, Dr. Kat Donoven, it is necessary to pay attention to children and help them develop so-called social skills - especially in the first 1,000 days of life, ie in the first three years or so. It is at this age that the child's psyche and emotions are formed. His parents can help him cope with new experiences, fears or anxieties.

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Children need help, not boundless protection

"It is difficult for parents to see their child in a difficult situation, it is very important to help them process such feelings, not avoid them and encourage children to get out of such a problem as independently as possible," Dr. Donovan explained. So it is definitely not ideal to try to save children from all the unpleasant situations that they may encounter. If they do not learn to deal with them (of course under the supervision and loving care of their parents) at the beginning of their lives, they may not be able to do so later. At the same time, however, he points out that each person is unique and the conclusions of the study may not apply equally to everyone.

Source: medicalxpress, University of Otago, Cambridge University Press

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