I signed the transcript for this incident - in our kindergarten (and maybe it is in all of them, I don't know) a situation in which there was a minor bleeding must be recorded as an accident. Because it happened about half an hour before the afternoon pick-up, she didn't call me. And she assured me that Jonah was not crying at all, that he had gone through the whole situation with unexpected calm.
My son smiled at me as she told her, and I had no reason to disbelieve the teacher. I wasn't mad at anyone. Neither to her that she didn't prevent it, nor to the other child or his parents. Children are fascinated by how unpredictable they are. We try to guide them as best we can, to teach them good behavior, but they simply sometimes switch the switch in a different direction and show their teeth. Literally.
BabyThere were times when I would experience such behavior terribly and I would fight for my son like a lioness. But gradually it passed me by. I've found that you can't respond to these situations by being angry with someone. There is empathy, not exaggerated emotions.
When I watch Jonah, for example, on the playground, I see him learning every little conflict with another child. These seemingly negative experiences heal him and bring him more to life than if I went to him all the time and said, "Lend the boy a shovel" or "And this was ugly of you, then apologize to the little girl."
Child care and upbringingAnd in kindergarten, it's exactly the same. More than two dozen children in one class are a group of original creatures, each recognizing the world in their own way and each responding to conflicts, frustrations or disappointments differently. In fact, very little is known about children who react by biting, kicking or pushing. At the same time, however, I must say that I do not know of a single kindergarten child who does not need someone to correct his behavior. Whether it's throwing food from a plate on the ground or destroying toys.
All "normal" parents and teachers try to lead children to be good people. So if there is a bite from time to time, no one should feel guilty about it and no one should be blamed. I take it that Jonah was the current "victim" of another child learning and growing. And I'm not going to deal with it any more.
They seldom understood that children just do this sometimes - and that they learn from it ...
This time Jonah was the one pulling the shorter end of the rope. But a few months ago it was the other way around. He had a time when he didn't bother to pull another child in the class or pull him to the ground just because he was playing with the toy he was looking for. I remember how desperate I was and how embarrassed I was, because the parents of the "disabled" children looked like Jonah was the only child in the world who had ever pushed someone. They seldom understood that children just did this sometimes - and that they were learning. The pushers and the pushed ones.
Your storiesAt that moment, I really wanted one of the other mothers to tell me a simple one: "Don't solve it, it's okay. I know that, too. ”But that never happened then. And so I try to be different in this.
Like Jonah at the time, the boy who bit him didn't hurt anyone with bad intentions. In short, they are three-year-old children who do not know how to express their frustrations in words, so they can cope differently. My son got his own medicine to taste. And while in the past he would have returned the bite equally, now he accepted the whole situation calmly and went his own way. It grows, it learns, it develops. That's how we should take it.
Ivana, 34 years old