• 20/06/2022
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We make a huge mistake when we give everything to children, says a family therapist<

Entering a nursery, kindergarten or school is often an extremely stressful and emotionally demanding period for both the child and the parents.But how do we know if a child is ready for this event?What skills and mental abilities should the child control before taking the next step on the way of life?What affects the healthy development of children's emotions and how to lead the child to gradual emotional independence?Experienced lecturer Jiří Halda, more on the issue of combining the healthy physical and emotional growth of children, will also bring an online lecture on emotional maturation and its key conditions on Wednesday 18 August.

How would you characterize an emotionally mature child?

The emotionally mature child has a natural dose of confidence, boldness, curiosity and creativity.In other words, nothing prevents him from developing.You will know that even if it is alive or unobtrusive, you do not observe anything that you find "bad".Intuitively, women can get to know this better, the championships are achieved by some kindergarten teachers.

How can parents support healthy emotional growth of children?

We make a huge mistake that we give everything to children and try to make them a children's an amusement park.But we should never reject her emotional needs.Children must never experience that they are rejected in emotional need, worried, or when they have bad dreams.

And then there's a key thing - rules and cushions.If the child feels unconditionally beloved and understands the rules, there is nothing in the way of healthy development.I just point out that the rules are what is true for all, not just a child.

Do you think that sending a child to a nursery before kindergarten has a negative effect on emotional growth?

Of course it has.Children's development has its own laws and one of them is that the child's child separation must be prepared in the child's ward.And at a time when nothing can be explained yet, it just has to "somehow".Whether reduced boldness, increased anxiety or reduced performance.In practice, I still encounter this.The consequence is that the individual is far from what is in his possibilities, just as if you tear an immature apple - it will never be so sweet and juicy, even though it "matured" on the bowl.

What are the main differences in emotional maturation in boys and girls?

Overall, girls mature and learn faster.It has physiological and biological reasons.Therefore, it also seems that the girls are raised themselves - the girls actually just watch your mom.The boys have more complicated development, they are also related to much more disorders.I will focus on the details of these differences in the lecture.

Do you think the emotionally unstable parent can raise an emotionally healthy child?

It is very unlikely.We learn the vast majority of what we know by imitation, including behavior, reactions, censorship.So it is extremely unlikely if "do not include genes" - that emotionally unstable parents are born a miracle - a child with a massive inner peace.Otherwise, it is usually that "what mother, such Katka" or "apple does not fall far from the tree".

Is it right to show negative emotions before the child?

It is necessary to distinguish whether emotions are negative in terms of content or form.If the parent disables the child, the child is furious and the parent keeps calm, it is in the best order.When a parent punishes or even punishes a child for angry, it is wrong.

When parents exchange opinions, but they do it subtly and solve the content, children learn how to deal with disputes.But if they rob themselves impulsively and solve something else, it is a disaster, because it not only stresses the child, but also teaches him that this is being resolved by disputes.

In other words - negative emotions belong to life, just remember that when we deal with something unpleasant, we have all the more careful about the way we do it.I am convinced that parents who can subtly inform children about the crisis that is between them is much more helpful to handle the situation.But it takes insight, feeling and patience.

Mgr.Jiří Halda

Teacher, special educator, speech therapist, lecturer, family therapist and diagnostics.He specializes in preschool children.It focuses primarily on the issue of raising children, pre -school maturity and learning processes.He is a graduate of the Faculty of Education in Hradec Králové and Palacký University in Olomouc.In 1993–2006 he worked as a teacher and a special educator at primary and special schools and in the pedagogical-psychological counseling center in Olomouc.Since 2006 he has been a lecturer, diagnostics, intervention and personnel advisor.

The online webinar of emotional maturation and its key conditions takes place on Wednesday 18 August 2021 from 7 pm.